Yesterday, just chat with my friend about this title about letting go.
He will share with me more about this topic because he knows more. (thanks cong)
sometimes when we face a problem , we feel emotion or suppressed it.
Now we learn to letting go (the middle path) become our natural habit.
from my trial and error, hahaha becoz my way is like that.
In my girly years : ) , when my mom gave me advise from her point of view and i couldn't take it. i let my emotion flow, maybe i was crying or didn't wanna hear, emotion controlled me . sometimes i thought if i didn't leave my hometown to jakarta, living independently in jakarta, maybe i didn't know that my parents point of view (long2 stories) is worthed, and could suits me in any terms and conditions.just how make me to mix and match it. they give the strong foundation in my life that i don't realise when i'm living with them. But in contradictive situation, if someone told me about them, mostly part was gossip, told me about my family, my hearts hurted but infront of them, i gave them my sweetest smile. i suppressed that feeling, only for myself. this condition follow me until this recenly years.
In beginning of this year, i practise letting go, when i accept myself, i know exactly what happen, i don't want any confrontation with that people who used mostly of their time to collect news about others and not focus in self improvement. It's not their fault, but it's culture. If i give any explanations do u think it's the best way to cure my heart and to stop that gossip? i don't think so. it can be more complicated, chaos. so i just keep mum. because when i talk my opinion, that person say i don't want to know others opinion, so from there i learn when people focus on their side and don't want to open their mind and heart, we can't do anything.
My mind and stronghearted learn to accept this real situation, and i letting go this feeling, i cure my heart by myself because now that's gossip or people say anything about me or my loved ones, it doesn't matter, it's not a big deal, people make it, want mess up or fix it (i don't know exactly) but i know that i know exactly what happen, i do my best for that, no need to announce ,because time will give us know and everythings will good at last.
For me to know exactly :
I born in this world, i can't make everybody to love/like me, but i want to learn like everybody, Make friends to anyone.
People praise me or look down me, it's ok, i learn to appreciate them and never look down to anyone because for me , we are same in this world, we belong to this universe, so what's point for the negative feeling to others?
People can talk anything to me, good one or bad one, i learn to not say the bad things but say the right things or don't say anything (see the terms and conditions) , For me, every person is a good person. example that if we don't like this person, but he/she still have friends too, so this means that if we can't go along with this person,just accept them.
I learn to accept all the things and problems that i have or people give me and do my best to work on it. I learn may things from others till now i feel more lively. I can't change others if i can't change myself.
If u 're ready , teacher will appear ( like Robin.S said in his books)
THanks for that books give me passion and know that i'm in the right path. and along these month i feel ease. I know i've to practise more and learning to growth, it's continuos improvement.
LIFE IS FAIR IN THE END.
Agree.. :) Letting go can bring happiness.
ReplyDeleteMany times I felt unhappy about myself: not sensitive to people, so unproductive at work etc. But in the end, it is I couldn't accept myself as an imperfect person.
"People can talk anything to me, good one or bad one"
"I learn to accept all the things and problems that i have or people give me and do my best to work on it. "
Will take this post as a guide. To let go of what others think of us. To accept things as they are but still do my best. Thanks for sharing :)